...although they wish for happiness, out of ignorance they destroy it like a foe. -Buddhist Master Shantideva

Our happiness has always been a choice. When problems arise we make a decision in regards to how we will perceive the situation and what action we will bring forth. The idea of seeing a problem as an opportunity instead of a barrier is a main tenant in many self help programs. These situations that challenge and strengthen our ability to stay mindful, seeing things for what they are versus what we perceive them to be, happen to us daily and are easily recognized. But what about our perception of happiness?
We all have an idea of what happiness is. For some its hitting the open road with a great mix on the iPod and no destination in mind. For others its curling up with a dog, a good book, and some vanilla almond tea. We see these things as making us happy but often its our idea of happiness that creates our unhappiness. A family obligation may cause you to have to cancel your road trip or an unexpected guest arrives causing you to have to put down your book and play host. Its at these times we need to practice right view and see the situation for what it is. You and your guest can have great time hanging out. Your happiness shifts from a good book to a good friend. Or you can feel frustration and let your happiness end when the guest knocks on the door. You may choose to enjoy your time with your family shifting happiness from the open road to your parents, siblings, and nephews, or be angry and unpleasant ending your happiness at the disruption of your plans.
How often have we heard "This is great but not as good as...." This perception lessens our enjoyment by interjecting the idea that its a lesser experience. In the present moment its all there is. It is the practice that we enjoy what is now allowing it to stand on its own without comparison.
Plans often challenge our happiness. I know many people that plan how an evening will play out before it even begins. This causes them to be unable to go with the natural flow of the evening and when it begins to plot its own course they are unable to let go of there perception of the perfect evening and thus quit having a good time.
Our happiness effects the happiness of those around us and depends on our degree of right view. Seeing clearly, touching reality, knowing what really going on inside and out is the way to liberate ourselves from the suffering caused by these wrong perception. This is the first step in the noble eightfold path.